Trudnoća je dokaz koliko je žensko telo čudesno i šta ono sve može da izdrži zarad produžetka vrste
Žena nosi bebu u stomaku 9 meseci tokom kojih njen stomak raste dok se beba u njemu razvija i priprema za život. Iako imamo priliku da vidimo kako neke žene izgledaju savršeno nakon dva meseca od porođaja, jedna hrabra žena odlučila je da podeli sa svetom drugačiju sliku.
Elis Grosman, majka troje dece, rešila je da govori i pokaže ono o čemu svi ćute. Njena objava Instagramu pokrenula je pravu lavinu. Ona je rešila da svima pokaže šta se dešava sa telom žene neposredno nakon porođaja.
-Čudan je osećaj pogledati dole i videti trudnički stomak, a vi u rukama držite vašu bebu. Zamolila sam prijateljicu da me snimi samo nekoliko sati nakon što sam na svet donela Vilu. Bila sam u svom najsirovijem i najranjivijem stanju jer me je sve bolelo, a emocije su samo navirale.
Let’s talk postpartum bodies! I asked @belleverdiglionephotography to take this photo, just hours after giving birth to Willa, in my rawest and most vulnerable state. I was in pain and I was overcome by a flood of emotions. Elated to have welcomed our beautiful girl and so empowered and proud of what my body and I had just done! It’s a strange feeling to look down and still see a bump, even though you’re holding your baby in your arms, even after doing it three times. It’s not easy to go home with a baby and still have to wear maternity clothes. With my first I was adamant I would just “bounce back”. Everyone would say “you’re young, you’ll loose the baby weight in no time!” But you know what, I didn’t, I never have in fact. With each baby I’ve gained a few more kilos and a few more stretch marks. I used to feel the need to cover up in this newborn stage, I didn’t want to see my body in this state, so why would anyone else? It’s taken me three babies, but I’ve finally realised this postpartum body isn’t something to hide! I am beyond proud for what this body has given and sacralised. I am thankful that my body is able to carry and birth babies naturally. I am NOT ashamed of my (many) new stripes and my postpartum body. And neither should you! Let’s celebrate postpartum bodies, in all their glory. The female body is incredible and I am so proud of what mine has done!
Nije lako otići kući sa bebom, a još uvek nosite odeću koju ste nosile u trudnoći. Sa prvim detetom nisam uspela da povratim staru liniju iako su me svi uveravali da će biti tako jer sam mlada. Sa svakim detetom ja sam samo dobijala na težini i pojavljivale su se nove strije.
Krila sam se od svih jer nisam htela da me gledaju takvu. Samoj sebi sam bila odvratna i ružna, a žao mi je što su mi trebale tri bebe da shvatim kako je moje telo zapravo tada bilo najlepše.Ponosna sam na ono što mi je moje telo dalo, što mogu da iznesem trudnoću i prirodno se porodim. Ne stidim se strija ni svog tela posle porođaja, a ne bi trebale ni druge žene. Ženska tela su neverovatna i tako sam ponosna na ono što mi je moje telo dalo.
Kada sam bila trudna prvi put nisam imala pojma kako ću da izgledam nakon porođaja. Došla sam kući posle četiri dana i izgledala sam kao da sam šesti mesec trudnoće. Pitala sam se u čemu grešim i zašto ne izgledam poput drugih žena. Trebalo mi je godinu dana da obučem pantalone koje sam nosila pre trudnoće. Moj lekar je bio više fokusiran na samu trudnoću i porođaj, a ne na to da me pripremi šta mogu da očekujem posle.
Pratila sam medije i videla poznate žene koje začas izgledaju poput supermodela samo nekoliko nedelja nakon porođaja. Mislila sam da ću i ja tako. Mnoge žene ako i ja imaju taj pritisak i sliku o trudnoći koja nije realna. Objavila sam tu fotografiju jer bih volela da je neko objavio nešto takvo pre nego sam ja bila trudna. Četvrto tromesečje kod trudnica je totalni tabu. O tome niko ne priča, a ja sam samo htela da druge majke znaju da nisu same, objasnila je Elis.
My post labour photo has been shared a few times on the internet this past week. And although I received a huge amount of support and had so many mothers share their own postpartum stories, I also saw many people question my decision to share such a personal photo publicly on the internet. So I thought I’d explain why. When I was pregnant with Peyton I really had no idea what post birth was really like, and you don’t fully understand until you actually have a baby! I was one of the first of my friends to get pregnant, so I didn’t have that support group to ask all those TMI questions about pregnancy and birth. My doctor was more concerned about setting a medically unnecessary induction date rather than explaining to me what post birth would be like! No one told me the reality of the fourth trimester. I had no idea you could still look so pregnant even after giving birth. Everyone told me I was young, I would bounce straight back, and I believed them. Just like many women do, I too used to look up to the media, celebrities who would show off their supermodel like post baby bodies just weeks after giving birth! I thought thats how it would be for me too. So when I went home from hospital four days after giving birth, still looking six months pregnant, I thought I must have done something wrong. How come I didn’t look like they did post baby? How come I didn’t bounce back straight away like everyone said I would? How come it took me a year to fit back into my pre baby jeans? Well, because for many women, and for me, this post baby picture that was painted in my head just wasn’t realistic! There’s so much pressure from society and from ourselves to look a certain way post baby, but for many that’s not the case, and that’s ok! I posted that photo because I wish someone had posted a photo just like mine when I was pregnant. I wish that someone had told me what realistically might happen to my body and to my mind. The fourth trimester is such a taboo topic. I want other mums also walking in my shoes to know that they’re not alone. That whatever their postpartum journey may be, it’s ok, it’s normal and it should always be priaised! I did it for me, for you and for her!
Njena hrabrost i rešenost naišla je na odobravanje mnogih žena koje su joj uputile reči podrške i zahvalnosti.